Lez Try It: Floral arrangement à la “Imagine Me and You”


Imagine me and you is a gently harmless romantic comedy about two women, Rachel and Luce, who overcome all obstacles (a straight man named Heck, a straight man named Coop) to fall in love and live happily together forever. And you know what? I like it! It’s a cute movie where lesbians don’t spend all of their time quietly lusting over each other or walking in the sea or whatever. Never seen ? Rachel (played by Piper Perabo with a British accent, innit) has curly hair and goes to work about once every six months; Luce (played by Lena Headey) is a lesbian florist who is gay. We know Luce is a lesbian because she has a desk dripping with beaded curtains, wears asymmetrical cardigans, and leaves a four-person dinner party to sit alone on the roof in the rain. At one point, Luce wears a navy blazer layered over a V-neck chenille sweater, as if the costume designer in the movie is like “Lesbians?” I think I once saw a lesbian on the back of a Delia catalog! Either way, Rachel is married to a man named Heck, but then she falls in love with Luce, then they live happily ever after.

I remember watching Imagine me and you shortly after I was released, probably because I saw him on one of those sad lists of “The Best Lesbian Movies For Lesbians That Aren’t, Like, GOOD, but They Are Good Lesbian Movies, and too Carole Is number one on the list, but all other movies are lesbian only ”. But I love this movie! It’s cute, and Giles is in it, and it features a scene where two lesbians fall in love during a romantic, dimly-lit elementary school presentation. The only really BAD thing about it is that it ends with a straight man looking straight at the camera and laughing, as if to say, “Can you believe this lesbian movie ends in a happy ending for me?” ? My name is Heck! “

Also, I don’t know where to put this, but it must be said: Luce’s florist is called “Flowered Up”. What?? It’s not something people say! What’s a pun ?!

Regardless, there is a lot of talk in the film about what different flowers mean, as Luce is repeatedly faced with emotionally unstable clients demanding the perfect flowers for very specific occasions. We learn that red roses signify love and loyalty, azaleas symbolize “may you achieve financial security” and, most importantly, lilies mean “I dare you to love me”. I was intrigued. Why do flowers have a meaning? What are their meanings? Can I make my own bouquet and send it to someone? Is this something I could do from the safety of my own home, because there’s always a slow-burning apocalypse outside? Turns out the answer to all of these questions was yes! I was all flowered and ready to go.

lez trying it

First I ran across a flowery field, screaming at the flowers. Their mysteries would soon be known to me !!! I felt pretty arrogant about it. Then I sat down and stared at a blank Google document for an hour. Turns out I didn’t know anything about flowers, and no one seemed to like it when I called them “fancy weed”. It was time to act like the great mouse sleuth and do some research.

My first question was, why and how do flowers have meaning? Isn’t the meaning of any flower “I love you enough to kill a non-sentient being for you”? In fact, although many cultures attributed their own meaning to plants and flowers (including the ancient Greeks, Romans, Egyptians, and Chinese), the true symbolism of flowers as we know it today has gained traction. importance in the Victorian era. The Victorians mastered the art of passive aggression by assigning specific meanings not only to each flower, but also to each color of each flower, meaning that a yellow rose could have a much different meaning than a Red. Giving meanings to flowers made it possible for Victorians to say things to each other they didn’t dare say out loud (excited!), And the books that defined the “language of flowers” were commonplace in Victorian homes, probably because John Grisham was not yet born. .

In addition to assigning meaning to each flower, the Victorians also went further: the physical positions of the flowers (i.e. whether they are held in the left or right hand or placed upside down or upright) were also given specific meanings by the Victorians. Most of the flowers that were given meaning were those that could not be easily purchased from the florist, as picking and arranging the flowers yourself was apparently part of the fun, probably because John Grisham was not yet born.

At this point my brain was starting to veer in The Da Vinci Code territory. I was starting to obsess over every flower that had been given to me in my life. When my parents gave me red roses for my college degree, did they know they meant “I love you”, or were they too ignorant to know which flowers meant “congratulations on successfully completing your major? in geology ”? My ex used to give me bouquets of pink stargazer lilies because she said they were her favorites, but these flowers symbolize prosperity and abundance. Was she trying to tell me to keep going Shark aquarium? Is that why we broke up ???

To make matters even more complicated, there are a ton of different meanings for flowers. Some of these meanings have changed over time, and some of them vary from source to source. I decided to concentrate more in order to make my own bouquet. I would put together a bouquet to send to my two younger sisters, Diane and Jess, with a very specific message, and then I would see if they could decipher it. For some reason, I thought there would be an online florist site where I could make my hideous bouquet, but that wasn’t the case, and everything I found even from afar was costing, for example, $ 85. So here is the bouquet that I built, with the meaning of each flower it contains:

Aster: brotherhood. (We are sisters.)
Iris: Irises have a lot of different meanings, but two of them are good news (ie good news! Here’s a symbolic bouquet for you!) And a “pleasant surprise”, often referring to the birth of a child (Diane has a 1-year-old son). Work for me!
Tansy: I declare war on you !!! (I couldn’t resist. There is something very charming about declaring war on a flower. Besides, we are sisters.)
Yellow carnations: Contempt. (If I’m going to go to war on someone, chances are I will despise them.)
Magnolia: Love of nature. (I’ll fight you in the woods.)

I had found the perfect bouquet. It was beautiful and had a clear meaning: “Good news, sister! I declare war on you. We will fight outside. It made a lot of sense to me. I sent my sisters a mockup of my bouquet (read: an email with 5 images of loose flowers) and asked them what they thought it meant.

Diane was confused by this TOTALLY NORMAL request for information. She said: “It’s a sweet bouquet that reminds me of The wedding of my best friend. The vibe it gives me is that there is a marriage between a man and a woman and I am a random person in the marriage and the bride sent me this bouquet as a thank you. Before I could say anything else, or maybe ask why a bride would give someone else a bouquet on her wedding day, she said, “I’m going to go look. The crown. “Fair enough!

Jess was a little more open with her interpretation, although she also didn’t quite understand what I meant by “the meaning of flowers”. She said the magnolia reminded her of a debutante ball, “like the one in CO where Jimmy Cooper hits another dad, ”and that the yellow carnations seemed to belong to“ a movie where the character forgets to bring something for his prom, so he has to pick weeds in the aisle and pretend that it comes from the florist. (She also said ‘what’s in the carnation?’, In case you were wondering if my love of bad puns was genetic.) Overall, she called the bouquet chaotic (‘bou-chaotic “) And said” if I were to put it all together, it looks like something the Prom Queen would receive on stage after the death of her Prom King boyfriend. “

My floral experience was a failure. Now I was going to have to send my sisters a firm letter announcing my intentions to fight them, which was much less elegant than a bouquet. What would Luce do? Probably yelling at a soccer player. I laced up my screaming shoes and headed for the local elementary school.


The language of flowers is interesting. Will I ever use it again? May be. I can totally see myself sending a bunch of snapdragons (deception) to a special enemy, or gifting lavender to a friend (suspicion), then frantically texting them “I HAVE LAVENDER FOR ITS RELAXING PROPERTIES !!” ! I TRUST YOU !!!! “But in this never-ending pandemic, there is something seductive about the old-fashioned means of communication. A handwritten letter, a deliberately designed bouquet, a Western Union telegram: they all offer that personal touch that you can’t forget Zoom. There is also something very strange about sending a message loaded with subtext in a bouquet, which I guess is why it is. makes sense that flowers are so prominently featured in a movie like Imagine me and you.

I highly recommend learning more about the meaning of flowers. It was absolutely the best thing I did for this column because reading is easier than sword fighting and learning tastier than creamed spinach. Now, if you will excuse me, I have to blossom. I need to fight my sisters in the woods !!

(Thanks to Audrey Burges and Xu Mason for their help in teaching me the meaning of flowers!)

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